I, too, was outraged about a man telling a woman she should lose weight. How could he? Why doesn't he love her the way she is? Kick him to the curb! And as I said, my marriage counselor convinced me that appearance is very important to most men, I'm sure not all, like not every man chooses to be successful financially.
So I did some research on the internet, and found forums where men were pouring out their hearts anonomously about their wives or girlfriends weight gain. Yes, there were a lot of outraged and angry responses to their comments. But I realized one common factor among the angry responders. They were ALL women. I've noticed that commonality on my blog as well.
The one unfortunate problem with this is...being bipolar, and it is SO FREAKING UNFAIR!! I took weight gainers for ten years and went up and down on the scale for years. When I was cleaning out my closet, I found I have clothes in all ranges of sizes. I would wake up in the morning and be so hungry that I would go to a fast food restaurant, order something, and literally cound not even wait until I got home to eat it. I had to tear into the bag on my way home and start scarfing it down.
I realized the big change in my appetite when my husband said I was going to order a pancake breakfast plus an extra breakfast from room service at the hotel every morning when we go on vacation. He used to think it was funny. And I realized "Wow, that used to be my life." I had forgotten how hungry I used to be when I woke up. It was so annoying waiting for room service to get there while I starved.
I thought about it, and Catherine Zeta Jones is bipolar, yet she hasn't gained any weight. I finally refused to take the weight gainers last year and told my doctor to find something that didn't cause weight gain, that was the #1 side effect I wouldn't put up with, and he did it. So it can be done. I'm not saying it's easy, everything is always trial and error, but it can be done.
If drug companies can do all of these great things, why can't they make more bipolar medications that don't cause weight gain? But now that I know that I don't HAVE to put up with it, I wish more people knew they don't have to, either.