We went to couple's therapy and both conveyed our stress to her, and she said stress even when you are wanting to move to a house you like in the same city is very stressful. So, I guess this is that stress times a million, I don't know.
With Mark traveling so much for work, I'm going to have to do a lot of this by myself to get the house ready to put on the market by the first of January. The outlook is far from good. We've been paying on our house for ten years, and we're STILL upside down. That's *crazy*! It could be worse. We have enough in savings to make up the difference, but for people living in states or cities where they have $100k or more to make up, we just wouldn't be able to move.
On top of that, of course we have to come up with *more* cash for a downpayment on a new house. I know, so why buy right away? Why not rent, save up, decide where you want to live in a new city? Because his company is pushing us to buy, buy, buy right away. They have all of these incentives to buy a house immediately after we move, all of these things they will pay for us if we buy a house within 60 days of selling our house and moving to corporate housing, and that would be a lot of money to waste if we didn't use it.
I guess his company wants us to plant roots right away in case we move there and decide we hate it - that way we've bought a house, we're stuck. I don't know, I'm guessing. I could be wrong. It might just be a nice perk. But THAT is stressful as well because realtors in that city want to know where I want to live so they (I guess I talked to the relocation company again, I'm starting to get confused about who I am talking to on the phone) can assign me to a realtor in the correct area - there are 24 offices in the city. So will the interview process take place AGAIN to find a realtor to work with there? I have no idea.
But after talking to the realtors, for me, having a house on the market is going to be very stressful. I'm not this super clean person, keeping everything perfect all the time in the house in case someone wants to look at it. I don't make my bed when I leave - that's only a very small example.
And this is all going to be mainly on me like I said, keeping the house this way. And yes, while it is mainly me that will be making the messes in the first place, I don't have an eye for perfection at home. We have a maid service for that.
All of the decluttering we've been doing - they want nothing to be anywhere, it's so much work. But - it's things that have needed to be done. I don't want to move things I never use anyway. Some things I have been parting with have been bittersweet. While I don't use them or wear them and I know I never will again, it doesn't mean I want to get rid of something. Maybe that makes me a hoarder, I don't know.
So much to do before the end of December - carpet cleaning, maybe some replacement, painting, a bit of fencework, cleaning windows where we can't reach, I have no idea what else - whatever else either of the freaking two appraisers coming tells me. And oh yes, the termite inspector is coming today too.
Have I said I hate it when people I don't know come in my house? I do, it makes me very uncomfortable until they leave.
I would say let's just fast forward to this time next year, but time goes by too fast already, I don't want to lose a year of my life and be a year older instantly. And maybe this will end up being a fun experience. But the part where we buy a house sure seems a lot more fun than this part of selling a house.