I was the only one in the waiting room when I went in to talk with him, but we spent so much time discussing drugs and him doing a lot of research and printing out documentation for me to keep that when I went out, every single seat in his waiting room was full. I really appreciated him taking the time to help me with what drugs would work for conceiving/pregnancy and possible birth defects.
Every drug that my OB/GYN told me NOT to take, he said that he could not think nor find a drug that would be better than I was taking to treat my symptoms in regards to fetus birth defects, and just could not find any studies done where fetuses were harmed from them. I have the documentation, and he printed one out to show me what he was looking for, a drug that I am NOT taking, and it said very clearly that it was not to be taken during pregnancy and the % for birth defects due to the drug. Yet the ones I take, there was just not enough information and what had been done, nothing had been found to conclusively say that they would cause birth defects during pregnancy. In fact, they said there was no adverse reactions to the small number of women that had been observed.
The list of drugs my OB/GYN had given me that I could take, he said, were the wrong medications for me. They wouldn't treat my symptoms. He said it was like someone telling me I need to get more socialization, and telling me to go to Muslim groups, or African American groups, it just wouldn't be the right answer for my problem.
But then he did what my OB/GYN does when she plays psychiatrist, he told me to take x # of milligrams of folic acid to prevent birth defects. Well duh. Neither of them should be giving me advice for the other's expertise.
He said I had been doing so well lately, what would the % be that I would develop a serious mental illness without my medications, and how would that help me if I were pregnant?
He was very convincing, I must say. But both doctors are so far apart on the spectrum. My OB/GYN doesn't know my mental health history, and my psychiatrist thinks a risk of less than 1% if that is even the risk could be worth it.
He said no one reports when something DOES NOT happen, it only gets reported and studies are done when something adverse happens. Pregnant women aren't used as guinea pigs I don't think. Dogs maybe, but not pregnant women.
When I got back home I told Mark who was less than pleased and looked them all up AGAIN on the internet, but this time, he read exactly what my psychiatrist had said. There just wasn't enough research done on the subject, but no problems had been encountered. That didn't mean that they didn't warn against it, just that they didn't have the information.
I don't think I'll go to the other psychiatrist now, I do not want to go through an hour of bringing up my past from my childhood to today, I don't remember all the drugs I've taken, and like I've said, she's 72 years old. I'm not an agist, but I doubt she's a researcher like my current doctor. He practices so he can research, not to get rich, I find articles all the time when I search for his name on the internet of studies he's done. Too bad they weren't on pregnancy.
Mark got his sperm results back today - he's totally fine, and they faxed his results to my OB/GYN. But they never asked him if they could do that, they just did it. I was shocked, isn't there some sort of patient/doctor confidentiality? Even if it's to another doctor?
He did the funniest thing that made me laugh so hard. The doctor had given him 2 sample containers and told him one was in case the results didn't come out well. Well he thought he needed to ejaculate once into both containers, and was really having a hard time trying to figure out how to do this. He went to turn in his sperm sample, and the lab worker asked if it was 2 ejaculations. He said no, it was one, and he said she looked at him strangely and said it was no problem, she would just add them together. She told him what he meant when he said that is that if there were problems, the second container would be used for LATER so he wouldn't have to come back and get another one. HAHA! Every time I think about his constant contemplating about how to get one ejaculation into two containers, and lining them up side by side makes me laugh so hard. But I adore him for doing it.
So now I go to the OB/GYN on Monday and she is going to want to know what my psychiatrist said and I know she will not be pleased. I just hope she doesn't decide that she will not help me conceive now.
I'm not thinking much about getting pregnant, but I like to document my psych appointments, they're so important to me.
If you're reading this Alicia - thanks for the facebook tip - no links from angry atheist boy today, yay! : ) I also used that advice on a couple of other people that irritate me too, and I started wondering, if I don't want to see their statuses, why are they even my facebook friends? I can't wait to see the Social Network that comes on Friday!